Hiding Hands

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Wedding_HandsThere was a time I felt ashamed about how different my hands looked. I knew my face and upper torso were not so different looking than those of an average person, but my hands on the other hand, if you will pardon my obvious pun, were a different matter. Not only are my fingers short and stubby, another side effect of my dwarfism is that the third knuckles in my fingers are fused together. This limits my dexterity, and also prevents me from making a proper fist. As I grew older and began using public transit, I buried my hands in my coat pockets whenever strangers stared at me.

 I don’t know what the turning point was, but eventually, I not only came to accept how my hands and fingers looked, but also to take pride in the things they can do. And when Bonnie and I went to buy our wedding bands, I also realized my fingers are anything but small. We quickly discovered the jewelry store did not even have my ring size in stock, which is a size twelve, the second largest on most charts.

But as they say, it’s not the size of your hands that matters, but how you use them! These hands can cook, play music, doodle, type eighty words per minute, do cross-stitch needlework, and so much more. Best of all is their ability to communicate warmth, friendship and love, all things a person can be proud of.

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3 Responses to Hiding Hands

  1. Administrator says:

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    Harvey: Wow, that’s one big ring! No wonder humans get nine rings and dwarfs only get seven.

    Administrator: It’s also why they love mining for gold and jewels so much: They need more raw material to put bling-bling on their huge fingers!

    Bonnie: It’s always amusing seeing the difference in our wedding band sizes. LOL!

  2. Mary Dadds says:

    I don’t have the classic dwarfism.If there is one.But I got a none working gene from my dad.my arms are a tad bit shorter fron the shoulder to elbow.my hands and feet are short and wide.and my fingers are thick.I always wanted tiny slender fingers like the other girls.I hate to say I wasn’t happy with what God gave me.But I certainly had problems with it.i am missing the back 2 knuckels on both hands.my condition made me very self conscious.My daughter got the full blown Albrights with ostyodystophy.and fortuneately she knew how to express her pain better than I did.I felt bad for you when I read your post but in the same time I saw there were others out there with the same feelings.Looks like you v done good in life,and Im glad.

    • Administrator says:

      Thank goodness what we look like is NOT who we are. In a world where there are at least a million million things we can do well, what’s a bit of shortness?

      Sure, there are some things I’ll never be able to do, but that is true for everyone.

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